I just did a radio interview with Charles Adler of Adler on Line about a chapter from my book called, “The Five Cs of Buying an Engagement Ring.”

You can listen to the interview here. You can read the chapter here.

Oh and if you listened to the radio segment, you may have heard Charles introduce me as both a fund manager and a carpenter. That’s not entirely accurate. I may well be the first Jew since Jesus to take up carpentry, but not even the Messiah could have found the time to trade the markets and frame houses. No, the truth is I used to be a fund manager. Fortunately for me (& my savings), I got out of the investment industry a couple of years ago and have taken up writing and carpentry.

 
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Annual update
12. 09. 2008

Not much of a blogger nowadays am I?

Last year I couldn’t shut up. This year, I couldn’t care less. I feel sort of lame. It was either remove this website altogether or post this update of what I’m up to. So here goes:

  • On the book: Click here. FYI, I recently started my second book, a “fictional” story that’s based in Hong Kong. (I call it “fiction” so that my friends can sleep in peace.)
  • On my romantic status: Click here. Yup — Hot!
  • On freelance work: Click here for my latest. I know … I know that I’ve said many times that I would never write about the stock market or other lame shit. But I’ve changed my mind. So sorry. I’ve actually got a few other interesting writing projects on the go that I’d rather not reveal just yet. Suffice it to say that the projects combine what I know (finance) with what I don’t know (humor). Or is it the other way around?
  • On my other pursuits: Click here. Yup — it’s true. Those who know me well can attest that I’ve been talking about this for fifteen years. I started the apprenticeship program this week. It runs for the next five months.

What else?

Still going to the gym - doing my yoga - enjoying my Prius - playing the stock markets - moving in a few weeks …

I got two new shirts last weekend. I’ll wear one of them out this weekend. It’s a gray V-neck. (I already wore the other one earlier this week and it’s in the dirty laundry).

I think I’m gonna have chicken tonight - maybe a double leg dinner — with fries, a white bun and gravy. I may have some pie too. We’ll see.

I need to go now - get into some gym clothes and go work out. It’s a chest day. If I don’t leave now, I probably won’t work out.

 
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I do really well with women at cocktail parties — at least for the first fourteen seconds. For the first fourteen seconds, I am a star. Women love me. And I love them loving me. I love seeing their expression when I tell them I’m a writer. Their enthusiasm leaves me enthusiastic. It also makes me wish it was true. Because as I’ve learned from the 15th second onwards, I’m not truly a writer until I am published. The typical conversation goes something like this:

  • She: So what do you do?
  • Me: I’m a writer.
  • She (leaning in): Ahhh. What do you write?
  • Me (inhaling her scent): Humor.
  • She (smiling): Oh! Wow. That’s great! So, where can I see your stuff? Do you have a column or something?

This marks fourteen seconds and is usually the point where things go bad. I know this because it is at this point that she starts to lean away.

  • Me: Uhhh, no.
  • She: Oh. You write freelance?
  • Me: Uhhh, no.

Pause

  • Me (continued): I do have a blog.
  • She: Sorry?
  • Me: A blog.
  • She: A blog?
  • Me: Yeah. You know, a blog. I blog about my experiences moving back to Canada and my attempts to build an audience.
  • She (smiling again, but a different kind of smile): Oh.
  • Me: Except, I, uhhh, don’t really blog anymore. I’ve kind of given it up. I maybe blog once a month. It wasn’t really the right forum for me.
  • She: Oh, did you get your book published?
  • Me: Uhh. No.

And so on …

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Regular readers of my irregular blog will know that I’ve experimented with many different strategies to promote my writing. Whether it was promotional bookmarks, magazine submission, stand-up comedy, book readings, videos or even this blog, I’ve kept really busy. Strangely enough, the one thing I didn’t do was actually submit the manuscript to anybody.

The truth is, I was hoping that I could build my audience from the ground up and that a publisher would eventually come to me; I didn’t want to be lumped in with all the other unsolicited submissions. I did have limited success in that one prominent publisher did ask to see my stuff, but aside from that it’s been very quiet.

By December 2007, I decided I was going to have to start the querying process. I then had a nasty surprise. You see, as I prepared my proposal, I realized that I no longer actually liked my book. In fact, I disliked it! I’d been spending so much time working on everything else, that I hadn’t even looked at the manuscript in months. And when I started to re-read it, I realized it left a lot to be desired. This left me in a quandary. I couldn’t market a book I no longer believed in.

But, I didn’t want to fix it either.

But, I couldn’t walk away.

So, I started to (reluctantly) edit it. It was a slow process……………….

Until I joined a writers group. Getting feedback and spending time with other local writers inspired me. I actually started to enjoy reworking the book. I’m now about halfway through the revision and gaining momentum. At the rate I’m going, I’ll have the whole book finished within a few weeks.

Which brings me to the here and now. You see, agents never needed to see the whole book. They didn’t want to see the whole book. The way the publishing industry works, most agents only want to see a query letter, a couple of chapters and maybe a proposal.

So after months of procrastination, the submission process has finally begun. Whatever demons or mental blocks were stopping me have suddenly passed. I’m ready to move on — to whatever happens next.

 
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Jazzoetry IV
21. 02. 2008

Last night I performed at Jazzoetry IV, reading one of my essays. It’s about a girl I fell in love with and is called “Heaven on Earth”.


PS - I resisted the urge to add canned laughter to the video, so please bear in mind that there were only nine people in the audience. (Ten if you include the bartender).

PPS - I can’t believe that there were only nine people in the audience! And six of them were performers! That’s absolutely ridiculous. Jazzoetry is an awesome monthly event that combines music with words and takes place at the Liberty Bistro in Toronto. It’s also free! Next one is March 19th. Click here to see a short promo.

 
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… unfortunately, I got news.

I’ve written before about how a major Canadian publisher asked me to submit a proposal for my book. It’s been two months since I dropped it off and “Mr. Somebody” just got back to me by email. His response was “no.” For those who crave the juicy details, I’ve included his email and my own response below.

Oddly enough, I feel pretty good about the whole thing. I’ve been reading Seven King’s book on writing, which happens to be called On Writing. It took King almost ten years to publish his first story, so I can hardly be disappointed with my own minor setback. (This pump-me-up comparison would work better though if I could forget that King was only about eight years old when he first started writing — yikes!) Still, the truth is, I’m pretty stoked that I even captured Mr. Somebody’s interest in the first place. I know my book’s far from perfect. In the last few weeks, I’ve been cleaning it up. So far, I’ve only submitted the book to Mr. Somebody. In the New Year, I’ll submit it across the board. Wish me luck!

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Hi Bruce,

I looked over all of the material that you delivered to me and have now had the chance to review your proposal with our editorial board.Unfortunately, we came to the conclusion that this project didn’t fit our list, so I am passing on it. I’ll send everything back in the mail to you. Do you want me to send it to you at xxx? Thank you for thinking of us, and best wishes with your book.

Sincerely,

“Mr. Somebody”

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Hi “Mr. Somebody,”

Thank you for considering my proposal. I really appreciate you taking the time to give an unproven writer a chance.

It’s not necessary to return the proposal. Please feel free to dispose of it as you see fit.

I realize that a person in your position hardly has time to deal with signed authors (let alone rejected ones) but should you have a moment, I’d love to grab a coffee or lunch with you and pick your brain on my proposal’s pluses and minuses. I’m also in the early planning stages of a new book (a non-fiction career book) which I’d be delighted to discuss with you.

If you’re unavailable (or if that sounds like a huge pain in the neck), I completely understand and look forward to meeting you again one day in the future.

Best,

Bruce Freedman

 
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A friend of mine got married three Sundays ago. The wedding was a lavish affair at the Waldorf Astoria in New York. I know this friend from my Hong Kong days. I was excited for his wedding. Many of my friends were flying in all the way from Asia.

But then instead of deciding to simply go to New York for a fun-filled wedding weekend, I thought this would also be a good opportunity to visit my cousin Michelle, who lives in Baltimore. So I decided to fly to Baltimore on Friday and make my way by train to New York on Sunday.

But then instead of deciding it would be enough to simply go to New York on Sunday after visiting my cousin in Baltimore on Friday, I agreed that it would be fun to drive with my cousin and her friends to Washington, DC on Saturday afternoon, and then spend Saturday night in DC and then take the train to New York on Sunday morning.

But then instead of deciding it would be enough to simply go to New York on Sunday after visiting my cousin in Baltimore on Friday, and driving to DC on Saturday afternoon, and spending Saturday night there, and then taking the train to New York on Sunday morning, I decided that Monday morning might be a good day for me to try and wrangle up a US publisher.

But then you can probably guess where this story is headed.

Regular readers of my irregular blog will remember that about six weeks ago, I bumped into a prominent Canadian publisher who asked me to submit a proposal for my book. I wanted my proposal to stand out from the pack so I prepared a small gift basket, full of rejuvenating creams and other anti-aging remedies. In the basket, I included a CD of my video, a stack of bookmarks and of course the proposal itself. Attached to the basket was a handwritten card. The card read as follows: Read the rest of this entry »

 
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B(l)ogged down
7. 11. 2007

There’s an excellent short story by Stephen King (or maybe somebody else) about a writer who runs out of things to say. I woke up this morning feeling the same way. I’ve got nothing left to say. I’m out of words. I’m out of opinions. I’m done.

This morning I started writing a post about the strength of the Canadian dollar. It was not coming from a creative place. It was coming from:

  1. A strategic place: I’ve got fifteen years of experience in global financial markets that is not being utilized as I write about penises.
  2. An angry place: I’ve lost a fortune from those US dollar assets that I did not convert when I moved to Canada.

About midway through, I discarded the entry; I’ve got no real desire to write about currencies. This is not the first time I’ve deleted a blog.

The simple truth is I’m not blogging enough. I only average 1-2 entries a week. A friend of mine who runs the successful website www.pets.ca, has suggested I increase my productivity. He’s probably correct. Most popular bloggers blog at least four times a week.

But most prolific bloggers don’t exactly craft their words. Many of my entries take a long time to write. My recent posting about social responsibility,”We all pl-eh a part ” took four days to complete. It’s 2,000 words long! Not exactly the kind of thing slackers want to read on their lunch break. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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The video
4. 11. 2007

Well here it is: the video that I’ve been blogging about for what seems like forever. It’s my best effort to visually portray this exciting new stage in my life. It’s taken a lot more effort than I could have ever imagined. Put a bullet in my brain if I ever try something like this again.

The centerpiece of the video is an animated scene of me appearing as a guest on a famous daytime talk show. The idea behind the scene was conceived back in May 2006, only a week after I started writing the book. In a fantastical conversation with friends, I playfully described what I would do if my book were to ever become a success and I were invited on Oprah.

This fantasy percolated in the back of my mind and the decision to make an animated clip, came about in March 07, when I was building this website. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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You know the feeling you get, when something good is happening and you don’t want to jeopardize it by doing anything that could throw it off track. That’s kind of what I’m feeling right now. At the same time, when I started this website, I undertook to be honest and put myself out there — 100 percent. I need to get the events of the last two weeks off my chest, especially since they could prove to be a turning point.

Three weeks ago, I blogged about how I was planning to take these promotional bookmarks of mine and start targeting publishers. The idea was — instead of distributing them outside Chapters — to start distributing them outside publishers’ offices. I’m up to 6,000 visitors now on my website, and averaging over one hundred new visitors a day. I figured it was time to see if I could get noticed by the industry.

People are always asking me if I’ve found a publisher for my book. I get a lot of strange looks when I tell them not only have I not gotten a publisher, I have not even approached a publisher. It’s crystal clear to me that I have been doing the right thing, but not everybody has understood my logic.

Two weeks ago, while disbursing bookmarks outside a publisher’s office, I met somebody who did understand my logic, somebody important within the industry. We chatted for a while; I told him my story. He liked my story. And then that somebody, let’s call him “Mr. Somebody,” asked me if I had approached his company. I told him “no” and I told him why. As I explained my reasoning, he nodded and broke into a big smile. And that’s when he asked me to submit a proposal.

This is a big deal. Most top publishers don’t accept unsolicited submissions. They certainly don’t accept them from non-agented writers who’ve never published anything. So I spent all of last week working on the proposal. My proposal follows a standard industry format and essentially argues the case for my book. It’s about twenty pages long.

Enclosed within the proposal is several chapters from my book. Choosing them has not been easy. I’ve barely looked at my manuscript since April 2007. Partly because the book is finished and I’ve been focusing on my blog. But part of the reason, to be perfectly frank, is I’d kind of fallen out of love with the book.

Not to say I’d fallen out of love with writing. Rather, I’ve felt my writing has improved. The manuscript needs editing, but I haven’t wanted to edit it. There’s a lot to edit! Moreover, I started writing the book only a week before my marriage ended. It came from a angrier, more aggressive place, and I simply haven’t been in the mood to go there.

But as I worked on the proposal, I found myself rereading the manuscript and enjoying it. I may not be in an angry place anymore but I can still appreciate the book for its humor. I got excited. And I fell back in love with the book. I cut a chapter, not because it’s bad but because it simply didn’t belong. It felt good to cut it. And I chose five chapters — thirty-five pages — to include in my submission. I edited them for flow.

I also expanded the title of the book. I think it works better now:

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You Don’t Look Young for your Age
…and other revelations you might not want to hear

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I submitted the proposal on Friday. I prepared a small gift basket, full of rejuvenating creams, wrinkle removers and other anti-aging remedies.* Mr. Somebody personally came out to accept it. In the basket, I included a CD with a rough cut of my video, a stack of bookmarks and of course the proposal itself. Attached to the basket, was a handwritten card. The card read as follows:

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Dear Mr. Somebody,

Here’s hoping you like the proposal. And don’t worry. I never would have given you this joke basket unless I thought you truly did look young for your age.

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* I actually stole one of the night creams for my own use, leaving Mr. Somebody with an empty box. After one week of slaving away on that proposal, I figured I probably need the cream more than he does.

 
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So I’m sitting with some friends in the thirteenth row of some second-rate theatre. We’re watching As You Like It by William Shakespeare and awaiting the appearance of our friend Rob. He has a major role in the play as the young heartthrob, Orlando. It’s the fight scene, which he has also choreographed. I watch him flip his opponent to the ground like something out of the WWF. I lean forward. Now we’re talking. The fighting reminds me of that scene in Star Trek where Captain Kirk is forced to battle Spock in the alien coliseum. All that is missing is that excellent Star Trek battle music:

♫Da da, dah dah dah dah, da da, dah dah drrrrrrreeeee! drrrrreeeeee!♫

Sigh…the fight scene is over. That was quick. Again, I’m bored out of my mind. I can’t understand half of what is being said and I have no idea what is happening. Nor do I want to know. Granted, the actors are doing as good a job as they can possibly do, what with the dated material — all these couples in love and all of them wearing disguises. How come nobody recognizes each other? Their disguises are worse than Clark Kent’s glasses. Why am I here in the first place? Twenty-five dollars down the drain. I would never have come to this play if my friend was not in it.

What is it about plays and friends? Why do we have to go see them? I’m told it’s because “that’s what friends do.” Friends support friends. You want me to come to your play? Well, let me ask you: back when I was in the real world, how come you never came to my office and applauded me for my work? I don’t remember you calling for an encore after I gave a particularly good presentation, or giving me a standing ovation for a well-crafted spreadsheet. Oh, but the theatre is entertainment? Well, masturbation is my entertainment. So I expect a bouquet of roses next time I pleasure myself. Just be careful with those thorns.

And then the play finally ends. My friends and I exchange quiet smiles and we all head outside the theatre to await His grand arrival. He comes out, all dressed in black. He grants me one millisecond of eye contact before his eyes dart off in other directions as he takes in his admirers. The irony is that for all the acting Rob did, we are the ones that are going to deserve an Oscar for the performance that we are about to put on:

“Yes! That was great!

“I got to say, you were so believable. I literally forgot it was you. You were the character!”

“Awesome, man. Great play and you really stood out!”

And if that’s not bad enough, afterwards we then follow him and his actor pals to some party that is filled with even more actor friends. They are all high on booze and coke. They are talking shop and nobody cares about us. I sit on the edge of the sofa listening to them criticize other actors, directors and shows. To make conversation, I turn to another actress in the show and compliment her on her role. I get a half-smile and some uncomfortable silence before she moves off in another direction.

And of course, my acting role does not end that night. The show must go on, and my performance is on an extended run, as over the next few days, other friends ask what I thought of the play. This is most painful if Rob is in earshot when I am asked. Even if he is fully engaged in conversation with a third party, you can still see his head tilt slightly and his ear start twitching as he waits for my scripted response: “Yeah, the play was great, and Rob … fantastic. You must see it!”

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Oh — and I’m hoping to get called up again for Yuk Yuk’s Amateur Night next Tuesday, October 23rd. Here’s hoping you can make it…

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